Penetrating Questions | P-Spot, the male G-spot, can provide different kind of orgasm

Jiná Ashline
Columnist

Do men have a G-spot, or are women the only ones who have this special button?
—Hoping for an Easy Button

Dear Hoping,

The simple answer is yes. The term G-Spot refers to the “Grafenberg Spot,” a soft mass of tissue in the front wall of the vagina that can cause intense pleasure when stimulated. An equivalent spot in men is the “P-Spot,” a term denoting the pleasure that can comes from stimulating the Prostate.

The nerves that play a role in controlling the sexual organs, including those controlling erection, orgasm and ejaculation, meet at the prostate and the perineum (the “taint”). The prostate is about the size of a chestnut and is responsible for prostatic fluid, which gives semen its texture and odor. The connection to pleasure may not be obvious, but it’s there!

When a man is about to climax, his pubococcygeus muscles (PC muscles that is, the muscles that control urine flow) contract and squeeze the prostate. This squeezing causes pleasure because some of the nerves around the prostate connect in and around the genitals, making the prostate extremely sensitive, like the female G-Spot. Men can reach an orgasm through P-spot stimulation alone, that can be different and more intense than penile orgasm.

Massaging the P-Spot can be incorporated into any kind of sexual play at any stage, just be aware that this extra sensation can cause a man to ejaculate very quickly. For most people, the easiest way to stimulate the prostate for most people is through the perineum, the hairless patch of skin located outside of the body between the base of the scrotum and the anus, directly over the prostate. During sexual play, particularly when a man is getting close to orgasm, the perineum can be pressed with the fingers and pumped firmly. If done with a partner, communication is key. A partner should massage in different places, with different motions and amounts of pressure, to see what works best.

In addition to fingers, there are massaging devices designed to stimulate the perineum (check out goodvibes.com). Also, stimulating the penis before, during and after a massage allows for more pleasure, as it increases blood flow and thereby swells the prostate.

After mastering external stimulation, try a gentle internal massage. Any pressure on the front wall of the rectum, where the prostate is, stimulates the P-Spot. A gentle massage that moves the gland back and forth can be very pleasurable. Also, try penetration with a thin vibrator, anal sex toys, or a penis. Condoms and lube should always be used during penetration to prevent the spread of STIs! For this approach, clean hands and lube are important in order to protect the delicate rectal tissue. If a partner is giving the massage latex gloves are highly recommended to prevent the spread of STIs.

As long as sexual play is gentle on the delicate rectal tissue, men and women alike commonly find that anal play can take orgasms to a new level. Condoms and lube should always be used during penetration when done with a partner to prevent the spread of STIs. If a partner uses oral play to stimulate the prostate, a dental dam should always be used.

Different people need different things for pleasure, and stimulating the P-Spot will most likely take practice, foreplay and communication with a partner! So, the next time you want to bring some added pleasure to your bedroom routine for your partner (or yourself!), reach for your newly discovered P-Spot!